Assignment: Go through each of the five origins of beliefs. Give an example of where each of these origins has let to a personal belief.
1. Environment- I am a product of a middle-class upbringing and that has shaped me into being a middle-class adult. I was raised with a sense of pride in myself and the work that I do no matter what it is. I was raised to believe that hard work pays off. I was raised to believe that you can in fact run away from your problems but if you should return they will be waiting for you. Also that no matter where you go if you don’t have a good sense of self you’ll create the same problems wherever you are. I am not racist, I believe in equality, so if I don’t like someone it’s based on their personality. I was raised to know that money is the root of all evil and that it is the structure on which our society is based so I could decide what that meant for me. I was raised, independent. I was raised around fighting, so I am a fighter to the bitter end.
2. Events- My Grams death has instilled/imprinted on my every fiber of being that one person has the ability to impact a whole ocean of people. Since I was 7 years old I have watched the slow and painful destruction of an entire family as if the glue that bonded it evaporated and disappeared. So it is absolutely true that one person does make a difference and one person can change anything and everything.
3. Knowledge- I was raised on sitcoms, the school mandated reading, and a vast diversity of music. These have instilled in me a wide range of perspectives for the world around me and have helped me gain a powerful ability to cope through sarcastic witticisms and humor, for it is better to laugh than to drown in hopelessness. These have taught me about the diversity in the world around me so that I do not walk blindly through my life but knowing that all people are equal yet we are all uniquely different in thought and soul. These have given me insight into the power of the well thought out plan, the power of organization, power of timing, and the power of the spoken word even though much can be conveyed without saying or doing anything at all.
4. Past Results- I have made numerous amounts of mistakes in my life and I have learned to reflect, but try not to dwell, in an effort to never repeat the same mistake twice. Despite the fact that I keep making school of hard knocks choices instead of switching up my style of mistakes.
5. Creating in your mind the experience you desire in the future as if it were now by creating the world you want and stepping into it- I have dreams and visions all the time and some make huge imprints on my self. Those ones that do are essentially my desires and they do come to fruition. Such as when I bought my house, had my son, and re-enrolled back in school (again).
Chapter 5: The Seven Lies of Success
Assignment: Go through the seven "lies" and give examples of how you use them in your life.
1. Everything Happens for a Reason- On a very short-sighted materialistic level, when I am shopping and I see something that I like I buy it (that is, if I can afford to). I do not think whether I can use it right now or not I just buy it because I know that at some point I will find a use for it or a place for it. Days, weeks, months, even years later a situation may arise and I will remember oh yeah, I don’t need to buy anything for this purpose I already have it. Why, because everything happens for a reason in its own good time. In life, I have been able to transfer that simple piece of knowledge to comfort me in knowing that when I meet someone and I get a good feeling about them I may not have a clue why they are supposed to be in my life but at some point, they will be essential to my life. (Those who I do not get a good feeling about I avoid like a plague and again for what I eventually find out, 99% of the time, was for good reason.) Other examples would be that when I buy a car, I have found out, it's so my dad can have a car to drive later on down the road when I upgrade and when I bought my house, it was so that when my mom and stepdad split she had a residence and so my ex had a safe place to recover after he got out of rehab, and currently a safe/stable home for my current boyfriend and my son to call home. What I do is for a reason that will always come to light.
2. There is No Such Thing as Failure- To fail is to not get up in the morning. I get up every morning, therefore I do not fail.
3. Whatever Happens, Take Responsibility- I choose to be friends with and date the underdog, therefore my life has been a struggle of catastrophe to triumph. I didn’t feel challenged enough at school, and let bullies push me around so I hid in the corner behind my 6 ft tall boyfriend at the time till school was over and therefore graduated with a 2.3 GPA. I let people chime in my ear about what I should do with my life therefore I changed my major twice and I work for the United States Post Office. I let my boyfriends tell me when I should start my family life so instead of starting it when I wanted, I started it when I got fed up. All of these are NO ONE's FAULT BUT MY OWN for allowing other people to direct me, while I sat around lazy complaining and bitching about how much I don’t like my life. Now I get fed up and jump without regard to whether there is a net under me because I’m tired of doing what other people want me to do. This I take responsibility for to, I take responsibility for waking up just like it would be my fault if I choose not to.
4. It’s Not Necessary to Understand Everything to be Able to Use Everything- I know a little of everything so that I can sound like I know a lot. I watched the movie Born Yesterday with Melanie Griffith, a great movie, explains this point perfectly.
5. People are the Greatest Resource- Everyone has a specialty, a knack for something, a refined skill, and it is important to utilize people for what they are good at. When I need something done, even on a simple day to day scale, I ask who I know will tell me how I can get the job done right. If I need help about my plants I call my dad, if I need something cooked I call my boyfriend, if I need to know something about baking I call my mom, if I need to know about my car I call my friend Ed, if I need medical advice I call my friend Michelle, and so on...
6. Work is Play- I don’t know this one all that well except to say that anything I have ever done artistically, academically or helpfully (helping a friend through a hard time) were things I did because I loved doing them and time didn’t exist when I did them and it was great.
7. There is No Abiding Success Without Commitment- I will never get to where I want to be unless I am committed to getting there!
Chapter 6 & 7: Mastering Your Mind: How to Run Your Brain & The Syntax of Success
Assignment: What is your primary modality when you are happy? What is your primary modality when you are stressed?
This is not an attempt to dodge the question or be over/mello dramatic it’s the honest to god truth, I am not sure I have really ever been happy to where I could give a primary modality. I can say that my son makes me happy and I have smiled and laughed many times in my life but smiling and laughing aren’t the absolute definition of happiness. When it comes to my son there isn’t one specific visual/auditory/kinesthetic thing that flips that happy switch on for me because no matter what he does, even when he’s bad, I’m happy inside and out that I have this wonderful little man in my life. Everything else is just superficial.
In terms of stress, I suffer from anxiety/tension disorder that essentially keeps me on edge all the time. I am always stressed and even when I’m deep breathing my muscles are tense and I’m waiting for the “knife to go thru my back”. While I understand that Mr. Robbins believes this is all in my head and to a large extent I agree, I’m not sure how to turn it off and I have tried just telling myself and it doesn’t work that way. (P.s. Of all the chapters in this book chap 7 didn’t make much sense to me, so hopefully I at least partially answered this question.)
Assignment: Try the Swish technique. Report on the effect of it on you.
This is a simple mind switching technique and while I grasp the concept, to me this is ridiculous. It is absolutely silly to me that there are people out there (and I know there are) that need this and it works for them.
I simply tell myself to do whatever needs to be done and I can do it. I don’t need to re-represent something in an effort to reprogram my thinking, I just need to tell myself it needs to be done and while it may take a minute to get done cause I get sidetracked and distracted, whatever it is eventually gets done whether I like doing it or not.
Chapter 8: How to Elicit Someone's Strategy
Assignment: Determine the primary modality of a person you know. Justify your belief.
For convenience, I choose to figure out my boyfriend’s primary modality and it’s kinesthetic.
I can make my points and stress my thoughts to him best through him feeling what I mean. Plain words or visual stimuli do not click with him, he has to feel what I am feeling in order to understand it. Also when he is displaying what he thinks, he chooses to display it through his feelings, he gets very emotional and he is very hands-on with everything he can be.
Chapter 11: Limitation Disengage: What Do You Want?
Assignment: Pick a goal you have and state it in terms of the five principles of goal setting.
Goal: To eventually be an artist/art therapist living very close to a beach.
1. My outcome will be to be walking on the beach with my kids and my husband while we walk our family dog, all happy to be together. All of this following a day full of artistic ventures and school-related activities and helpful endeavors for our community, like helping at the local library or counseling parents and children to communicate better with each other. This will be accompanied by a feeling of financial stability and security that the people I have in my life are there and not running away.
2. This outcome looks like something out of a movie with sand between our toes and warm salty ocean air blowing through our hair. With clothes on that came from old navy and are clothes that we wear not cherish or iron. It is the picture of my kids running along with the dog throwing Frisbees and balls and the dog chasing them and bringing them back and maybe a random beach find. It is a picture of my husband and me walking arm in arm reveling in the moment that is then and the happiness that we are the proud parents and best friends to our kids. The sky is painted with an array of colors and the clouds are puffy and white. The air tastes like salt mixed with cold cut sandwich meats and cheeses from dinner on the deck. It sounds like a choir of seagulls going crazy for food and children screaming with happiness at how much fun they’re having and tiny whispers of love and talk of what life has brought and will bring.
3. I will look like an aged woman but with smile lines instead of wrinkles and I will look like a woman who is a mom and not teenager or twenty-some kid chasing down the dawn. I will look like a happy woman who is in love with her life, her job, her family, and who has told those who don’t matter to go away and cherished those who are important. I will look like a woman who makes time to do yoga, the charter school my kids, work from home and a community office, cook dinner, walk on the beach, watch a sitcom or 2, and read before falling asleep in a bed that’s warm.
4. I need to start taking care of my body better before I can start making great strives and headway on my goals. Currently, I suffer from too little of the right sleep and too little of the right food and too little of the right kind of time needed to attain anything. Once I can figure out a good schedule I’ll be on my way, currently, I’m still in the trial and error phase of it.
5. While I am aware that anything and everything can always go wrong, as long as I stay focused that the beach will be a great place for me and my family, eventually we will get there. I just need to not project so much, know my goal, and take each day a day at a time. It’s pointless to live in the future not here yet and miss the present that is right here now and therefore miss the goal I want so bad because I didn’t really see it when it came.
Chapter 12: The Power of Precision
Assignment: With the goal that you set up in the last chapter, think of asking a specific person to help you. Go through the five principles of asking with that person in mind and write what you discovered.
While I understand what this chapter is saying, I do not believe that I can really ask anyone specifically to “get me to the beach”. Not in an effort to dodge the question but I do not have a very great support system in my life at all. They love me and they go along with what I want but mostly because they have no means to stop me and they need to reap whatever I may sow as opposed to support me. Meaning I cannot just ask my family or friends for a loan or to watch my son while I go chase my dreams or even babysit while I go do what I need to do without hops and flames of irritating proportions first. That gets old. So I do not ask for anything ever unless I absolutely need it and I always brace myself that I will get a resounding “sorry, but I can’t help”. So I do what I need to and can when I can and how I can.
In terms of stress, I suffer from anxiety/tension disorder that essentially keeps me on edge all the time. I am always stressed and even when I’m deep breathing my muscles are tense and I’m waiting for the “knife to go thru my back”. While I understand that Mr. Robbins believes this is all in my head and to a large extent I agree, I’m not sure how to turn it off and I have tried just telling myself and it doesn’t work that way. (P.s. Of all the chapters in this book chap 7 didn’t make much sense to me, so hopefully I at least partially answered this question.)
Assignment: Try the Swish technique. Report on the effect of it on you.
This is a simple mind switching technique and while I grasp the concept, to me this is ridiculous. It is absolutely silly to me that there are people out there (and I know there are) that need this and it works for them.
I simply tell myself to do whatever needs to be done and I can do it. I don’t need to re-represent something in an effort to reprogram my thinking, I just need to tell myself it needs to be done and while it may take a minute to get done cause I get sidetracked and distracted, whatever it is eventually gets done whether I like doing it or not.
Chapter 8: How to Elicit Someone's Strategy
Assignment: Determine the primary modality of a person you know. Justify your belief.
For convenience, I choose to figure out my boyfriend’s primary modality and it’s kinesthetic.
I can make my points and stress my thoughts to him best through him feeling what I mean. Plain words or visual stimuli do not click with him, he has to feel what I am feeling in order to understand it. Also when he is displaying what he thinks, he chooses to display it through his feelings, he gets very emotional and he is very hands-on with everything he can be.
Chapter 11: Limitation Disengage: What Do You Want?
Assignment: Pick a goal you have and state it in terms of the five principles of goal setting.
Goal: To eventually be an artist/art therapist living very close to a beach.
1. My outcome will be to be walking on the beach with my kids and my husband while we walk our family dog, all happy to be together. All of this following a day full of artistic ventures and school-related activities and helpful endeavors for our community, like helping at the local library or counseling parents and children to communicate better with each other. This will be accompanied by a feeling of financial stability and security that the people I have in my life are there and not running away.
2. This outcome looks like something out of a movie with sand between our toes and warm salty ocean air blowing through our hair. With clothes on that came from old navy and are clothes that we wear not cherish or iron. It is the picture of my kids running along with the dog throwing Frisbees and balls and the dog chasing them and bringing them back and maybe a random beach find. It is a picture of my husband and me walking arm in arm reveling in the moment that is then and the happiness that we are the proud parents and best friends to our kids. The sky is painted with an array of colors and the clouds are puffy and white. The air tastes like salt mixed with cold cut sandwich meats and cheeses from dinner on the deck. It sounds like a choir of seagulls going crazy for food and children screaming with happiness at how much fun they’re having and tiny whispers of love and talk of what life has brought and will bring.
3. I will look like an aged woman but with smile lines instead of wrinkles and I will look like a woman who is a mom and not teenager or twenty-some kid chasing down the dawn. I will look like a happy woman who is in love with her life, her job, her family, and who has told those who don’t matter to go away and cherished those who are important. I will look like a woman who makes time to do yoga, the charter school my kids, work from home and a community office, cook dinner, walk on the beach, watch a sitcom or 2, and read before falling asleep in a bed that’s warm.
4. I need to start taking care of my body better before I can start making great strives and headway on my goals. Currently, I suffer from too little of the right sleep and too little of the right food and too little of the right kind of time needed to attain anything. Once I can figure out a good schedule I’ll be on my way, currently, I’m still in the trial and error phase of it.
5. While I am aware that anything and everything can always go wrong, as long as I stay focused that the beach will be a great place for me and my family, eventually we will get there. I just need to not project so much, know my goal, and take each day a day at a time. It’s pointless to live in the future not here yet and miss the present that is right here now and therefore miss the goal I want so bad because I didn’t really see it when it came.
Chapter 12: The Power of Precision
Assignment: With the goal that you set up in the last chapter, think of asking a specific person to help you. Go through the five principles of asking with that person in mind and write what you discovered.
While I understand what this chapter is saying, I do not believe that I can really ask anyone specifically to “get me to the beach”. Not in an effort to dodge the question but I do not have a very great support system in my life at all. They love me and they go along with what I want but mostly because they have no means to stop me and they need to reap whatever I may sow as opposed to support me. Meaning I cannot just ask my family or friends for a loan or to watch my son while I go chase my dreams or even babysit while I go do what I need to do without hops and flames of irritating proportions first. That gets old. So I do not ask for anything ever unless I absolutely need it and I always brace myself that I will get a resounding “sorry, but I can’t help”. So I do what I need to and can when I can and how I can.
However, in relation to this chapter, I did ask someone to help pay for the rest of my tuition for my bachelor's degree. I asked my stepfather, who is the only person that I know that loves me and could afford to long term loan me the money to finish and he already knew how important school has been to me and my struggles with it so I did ask specifically, and I did ask the only person who was in any position to even maybe help me. I didn’t need to create value to it or be focused beyond just asking “would you be so kind as to pay for the rest of my tuition since I have run out of aid”, and I didn’t need to continue to ask he gave me an answer right then. He said yes because he knew how much getting a degree meant to me, how much I have gone through so far in relation to school, that my parents weren’t willing to help, and he was my only option. He does believe in me, and he loves me like I was his own daughter now and he wants to see me accomplish this and be done with it (and personally I think he does feel a little guilty that he didn’t help me 13 years ago). Grad school is on me to figure out.
Chapter 13: The Magic of Rapport
Assignment: Observe two people interacting for a couple of minutes. How did they match and mirror each other? Do you think they felt close or distant?
Dale and I mirror each other in our attitudes and demeanor so much it’s unnerving. As we do not bring out the best in each other and we consequently become distant from each other frequently in the heat of the moment and then close as we each reflect on the fact that we would have each reacted in the exact same way had we been in each other's shoes.
Frequently I have stood looking at him and I and I know what I’m seeing and it’s surreal.
As for watching, say, other people, I work with, I haven’t really noticed a lot of matching or mirroring on an individual level only on a group level of when one person gets pissed at a managers decision others will follow suit and work slower or get irritated but where I work isn’t a lot of individual interactions its warehouse of mass mail moving groups trying to get through a lot of mail in a continual 24 hr clock of 8-12 hr shifts.
Otherwise, I don’t go out much, like to people watch at the mall. I go to work and come home. I’m in a one-car family and I work nights and he works days.
Chapter 14: Distinctions of Excellence: Metaprograms
Assignment: For each of the metaprograms, choose which one you are and explain why you chose that one. Toward vs. Away, External vs. Internal, Sorting by Self vs. Sorting by Others, Matcher vs. Mismatcher, Possibility vs. Necessity, Independent vs. Proximity vs. Cooperative working style.
1. Toward vs. Away- It depends upon the situation. It doesn’t seem fair to just classify myself as one or the other all the time. While it doesn’t always appear that I am moving toward anything because of my stellar ability to procrastinate like a champ, I am in fact always striving for my aspirations. I just have to take things a day at a time and do what I can, when I can, however I can. This can make it appear that I might be moving away instead because I don’t live off peanut butter and jelly and pound that pavement every waking minute I’m not working and forsaking sleep for financial gain (I’m not Mark Cuban). On the other hand, I do move away from things that I do fear, though I can honestly admit that with age I fearless. I used to move away from anything the jeopardized my job with the USPS, now I do not fear that because that is not what defines me. I used to fear being with someone who would essentially take me under but since being with Dale I do not fear that anymore because I know I will resurface. You can only fight with someone so much before you realize they have nothing to say and a new day will follow and life will go on. I do still have a healthy fear of weirdo’s and I do still move as far away from them as possible and I do fear losing my child to the dark underbelly of drugs so I read to him regularly. (Dead serious!)
2. External vs. Internal- Internal because it does not matter to me in the least what someone thinks about me or my life anymore. While I do appreciate someone complimenting me on stuff, I have heard it so little that I have learned to compliment myself. While I have always heard compliments on how I look, which is so trivial, and about the fact that I’m smart, I get more remarks about my crass nature, living situations, and life choices that I have developed a thick skin. So when someone, like the teachers, bosses, and family members of mine speak about their opinions on me and what’s mine I look inside and revalidate all my choices. (If I was external I would have drowned myself in a tub with a toaster by now, so Lifetime Original Movie, therefore I revalidate. I’m my own best cheerleader and worst enemy, go figure)
3. Sorting by Self vs. Sorting by Others- By self, because if I sorted by others I’d become overwhelmed. I prefer to help those who pose as a project to me therefore a way of rewarding myself when they are doing well in life. So I guess I don’t do anything for anyone that I don’t see a reward for. (Yes I am delusional; I’m working on this in therapy)
4. Matcher vs. Mismatcher- Matcher, because if I could afford to be an Obsessive Compulsive neat freak I would. Unfortunately, I let messy projects (human and inanimate) get the best of me but in my head its all neatly organized and subcategorized. Also when I look for a project they all fall along the same lines, I don’t like the unfamiliar because it takes me too long to become comfortably familiar even though I can decode the situation almost instantly. To further illustrate, most everyone in my life is of the same backgrounds which are like my background, and they look fairly similar in as many ways as I can feel comfortable with. The things in my house all flow along the same lines. My likes and dislikes all mirror each other. I like conformity as long as it’s not to be a meek unvocal individual and the people/things in my life are a reflection of that.
5. Possibility vs. Necessity- Well, I can see the possibility of a necessity. I went to work for the post office, 1. because my dad told me to, and 2. because I saw the possibility of making good money and where that could take me in life with the direction being away from the post office. Generally speaking though, I do things mostly out of necessity and with the hopes for the possibility to emerge that it will allow me to sally forge my way to greater things.
6. Independent vs. Proximity vs. Cooperative Working Styles- Proximity when I’m at work and independent in life. I get more accomplished when I don’t have to worry about what other people are thinking or feeling or complaining about. If I know what other people want or in general what needs to be done then just let me do my thing and it will get done. Though at the post office, I like having people around because the job is so mundane and repetitive, having people around lets me know that another day has passed and that Groundhog Day isn’t occurring. Also when going up against idiots, strength in numbers does help. Otherwise, no one would get there package, like ever.
Chapter 18: Value Hierarchies: The Ultimate Judgment of Success
Assignment: What are your values and how are you living your life congruently with your values?
Chapter 13: The Magic of Rapport
Assignment: Observe two people interacting for a couple of minutes. How did they match and mirror each other? Do you think they felt close or distant?
Dale and I mirror each other in our attitudes and demeanor so much it’s unnerving. As we do not bring out the best in each other and we consequently become distant from each other frequently in the heat of the moment and then close as we each reflect on the fact that we would have each reacted in the exact same way had we been in each other's shoes.
Frequently I have stood looking at him and I and I know what I’m seeing and it’s surreal.
As for watching, say, other people, I work with, I haven’t really noticed a lot of matching or mirroring on an individual level only on a group level of when one person gets pissed at a managers decision others will follow suit and work slower or get irritated but where I work isn’t a lot of individual interactions its warehouse of mass mail moving groups trying to get through a lot of mail in a continual 24 hr clock of 8-12 hr shifts.
Otherwise, I don’t go out much, like to people watch at the mall. I go to work and come home. I’m in a one-car family and I work nights and he works days.
Chapter 14: Distinctions of Excellence: Metaprograms
Assignment: For each of the metaprograms, choose which one you are and explain why you chose that one. Toward vs. Away, External vs. Internal, Sorting by Self vs. Sorting by Others, Matcher vs. Mismatcher, Possibility vs. Necessity, Independent vs. Proximity vs. Cooperative working style.
1. Toward vs. Away- It depends upon the situation. It doesn’t seem fair to just classify myself as one or the other all the time. While it doesn’t always appear that I am moving toward anything because of my stellar ability to procrastinate like a champ, I am in fact always striving for my aspirations. I just have to take things a day at a time and do what I can, when I can, however I can. This can make it appear that I might be moving away instead because I don’t live off peanut butter and jelly and pound that pavement every waking minute I’m not working and forsaking sleep for financial gain (I’m not Mark Cuban). On the other hand, I do move away from things that I do fear, though I can honestly admit that with age I fearless. I used to move away from anything the jeopardized my job with the USPS, now I do not fear that because that is not what defines me. I used to fear being with someone who would essentially take me under but since being with Dale I do not fear that anymore because I know I will resurface. You can only fight with someone so much before you realize they have nothing to say and a new day will follow and life will go on. I do still have a healthy fear of weirdo’s and I do still move as far away from them as possible and I do fear losing my child to the dark underbelly of drugs so I read to him regularly. (Dead serious!)
2. External vs. Internal- Internal because it does not matter to me in the least what someone thinks about me or my life anymore. While I do appreciate someone complimenting me on stuff, I have heard it so little that I have learned to compliment myself. While I have always heard compliments on how I look, which is so trivial, and about the fact that I’m smart, I get more remarks about my crass nature, living situations, and life choices that I have developed a thick skin. So when someone, like the teachers, bosses, and family members of mine speak about their opinions on me and what’s mine I look inside and revalidate all my choices. (If I was external I would have drowned myself in a tub with a toaster by now, so Lifetime Original Movie, therefore I revalidate. I’m my own best cheerleader and worst enemy, go figure)
3. Sorting by Self vs. Sorting by Others- By self, because if I sorted by others I’d become overwhelmed. I prefer to help those who pose as a project to me therefore a way of rewarding myself when they are doing well in life. So I guess I don’t do anything for anyone that I don’t see a reward for. (Yes I am delusional; I’m working on this in therapy)
4. Matcher vs. Mismatcher- Matcher, because if I could afford to be an Obsessive Compulsive neat freak I would. Unfortunately, I let messy projects (human and inanimate) get the best of me but in my head its all neatly organized and subcategorized. Also when I look for a project they all fall along the same lines, I don’t like the unfamiliar because it takes me too long to become comfortably familiar even though I can decode the situation almost instantly. To further illustrate, most everyone in my life is of the same backgrounds which are like my background, and they look fairly similar in as many ways as I can feel comfortable with. The things in my house all flow along the same lines. My likes and dislikes all mirror each other. I like conformity as long as it’s not to be a meek unvocal individual and the people/things in my life are a reflection of that.
5. Possibility vs. Necessity- Well, I can see the possibility of a necessity. I went to work for the post office, 1. because my dad told me to, and 2. because I saw the possibility of making good money and where that could take me in life with the direction being away from the post office. Generally speaking though, I do things mostly out of necessity and with the hopes for the possibility to emerge that it will allow me to sally forge my way to greater things.
6. Independent vs. Proximity vs. Cooperative Working Styles- Proximity when I’m at work and independent in life. I get more accomplished when I don’t have to worry about what other people are thinking or feeling or complaining about. If I know what other people want or in general what needs to be done then just let me do my thing and it will get done. Though at the post office, I like having people around because the job is so mundane and repetitive, having people around lets me know that another day has passed and that Groundhog Day isn’t occurring. Also when going up against idiots, strength in numbers does help. Otherwise, no one would get there package, like ever.
Chapter 18: Value Hierarchies: The Ultimate Judgment of Success
Assignment: What are your values and how are you living your life congruently with your values?
- Belonging
- Common Sense
- Creativity
- Respectful
- Intelligence
- Project Oriented
- Attractiveness
- Patience’s l DOMESTICATION l
- Loyalty
- Cleanliness l WORK l
- Open-Mindedness
- Hard Working l SCHOOL l
- Humor
- Adventurous
- Organization
- Drive
- Compassion
- Assertiveness
- Animatedness
- Classical
- Motherhood
To illustrate: (Not in corresponding order):
- Belonging I am in a relationship with a man who will not leave me, literally, no matter what we fight about, ever.
- Creativity, I have a blog with all my art and writing on it that I do whenever I can.
- Intelligence, I’m in school and have been there on and off for 13 years and I plan on going to grad school.
- Attractiveness, Dales hot, I’m hot, and our kids cute as can be.
- Loyalty, I have a small estate (very small) people mooch off me and I don’t have to leave them homeless
- Open-Mindedness, I say whatever I think when I think it.
- Humor, I keep practicing my skit for Saturday Night Live in my head for my future YouTube audition.
- Organization, when I have the money I buy Tupperware to separate my life into compartments (no joke)
- Compassion, I have human projects, including myself
- Animatedness, you would be cracking up if I was reading this to you aloud and when I read to my son I do all the goofy voices and we get goofy all the time. (It keeps me sane), also I dance at work like I’m on soul train when I have my headphones on.
- Common Sense, they need to have a class for this, I’d pass, and most people wouldn’t.
- Respectful, I only adhere to this if someone shows me respect; most don’t so in good conscious I can’t respect the disrespectful.
- Project Oriented, I have about 18 going on at one time. 1/18 may get done, depends on how much time life allows me to work on any given one.
- Patience’s, 1/18 is a good ratio to me.
- Cleanliness, I live in messy disarray, not filth.
- Hard-working, well it took hard work to get where I am, despite that it was along the Hard Knocks Road.
- Adventurous, Hard Knocks Rd can be a wild Rd.
- Drive, This is how I will get to the beach someday. (<- no joke) (joke->) Cause its how I’ve gotten there before (I hope you don’t dock my grade, I’m only making light of the impossibility it is for me to answer things simply, so this is turning into a long assignment, I apologize.)
- Assertiveness, I don’t like people who can’t say what they mean to say, and I tend to steer clear of them and I myself always am blunt and to the point so there is little confusion as to what I’m saying, thinking, wanting, needing and/or feeling.
- Classical, I like Turner Classic Movies.
- Motherhood, domestication, work, and school are my core. I do these without thought daily. I take care of my son's needs and wants, I do my daily household chores and run it as head of it, I go to my job, and I do my school work to the best of my ability always!
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